Wed 6 Jan 2010
Questions, questions and more questions! They are the most interesting thing that we can ask when we are on a first date with someone. You just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview! Questions are the best way to get to know someone and show them we are interested in them. On a first date you just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview!
Dale Carnegie in his timeless bestselling book, “How to win friends and influence people” talks about the simple power of asking questions to show that we are interested in someone else.
Have you been to a party and been the one asking all the questions and doing all the listening? If you have, you will most likely attest that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting. You probably did less that 20% of the speaking but you got 100% of the credit!
If you’re a guy and ask a lady some great questions, you will often find yourself leap-frogging to final base, saving a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and really listening to what a person says is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do with anyone.
If you are a lady and want to stroke a guy’s ego and make him feel good then ask lots of interesting questions and then listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a string from there on!
Despite the ego-stroking that can happen, if you ask and listen there is also a genuine side to the picture as well. Because people who’re genuinely interested in someone else, are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.
Here are 21 questions to ask to get the conversation rolling. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions – which are always better.
Here are 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl
1. If you are working as a waiter and one of your customers was rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or worst still spit in their soup?
2. What was your favourite cartoon character as a kid and why did you enjoy them?
3. If you could choose to have dinner with five people – real of fictional – who would you invite and why?
4. If you could suddenly become the invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?
5. If someone was to make a comedy movie about just one part of your life, which part would they script and what would be written?
6. What was your favourite television character when you were a child? What did you like about them?
8. What do you regret not doing the most in your life?
8. What was the funniest experience in your whole entire life?
9. Have you ever gone on a date with a person who is so way smaller or taller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?
10. How old were you when you had your first proper date? Did you get to kiss them and if so was it a French kiss?
11. What’s the worst lie you’ve ever told in your life? Where you caught out?
12. If you instantly turned into a woman just for a day, what would you do with your day and why?
13. If you do not like someone do you show it or pretend that you like them?
14. What’s the highest priority for you when considering a partner – good looks, intelligence, sense of humor, or something else?
Time to get a little more personal!
15. Have you ever been caught with no clothes on in a public place – if so what were you doing?
16. What’s the difference between making love and having sex for you and which do you prefer?
17. If you could change the age that you lost your virginity, would you?
18. What turns you on the most?
19. Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did they ever find out? If so, what happened?
20. Has anyone ever caught you masturbating? If they did what did you do?
21. Have you ever serial sex – with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?
If you would like to read more fun questions that you can ask different guys then visit 21 questions to ask a guy today.